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3. Making peace with loneliness without letting it define you
Loneliness is a feeling everyone experiences at certain point in life,but the loneliness after a loss of someone we loved is unlike any other form of this feeling, because we don’t only miss a person but everything that came with their presence. We shared jokes, our days, our secrets, and all of a sudden, it’s all gone, and there is no amount of other people who can feel that kind of need.
Whats more, during grieving, it’s even hard to be around people, and even if we do surround ourselves with friends and family, we can still feel lonely. Why? Because just the thought of being around people while our loved one is not there can feel like we are doing something wrong, because to us, it may feel like we are trying to fill their presence, and that seems like a betrayal although it isn’t.
The goal shouldn’t be to erase loneliness, because honestly, that’s rarely possible, at least initially. The goal is to prevent that loneliness from turning into isolation.
You don’t need to force yourself to make social connections or interactions, but still, when you are surrounded with familiar faces can help you remember that even your loved one passed away, you are still part of the world.
Loneliness will eventually lose its edge. While it may never disappear entirely, you’ll learn how to control it instead of letting it control you.
4. Allowing joy without guilt
When joy returns into our life following a loss, we can easily feel guilty because of that. We may catch ourselves laughing, enjoying a meal or someone’s presence, and even have some fun along the way. But then guilt strikes and we ask ourselves, “How I dare I feel like this when they gone?”
Well, grief and joy aren’t really antonyms because they can co-exist, and they often do. If you feel joyous, it doesn’t mean you no longer mourn the death of the person you loved or that your love for them wasn’t strong enough.
On the contrary, these times and moments of joy can only help you cope with the loss better, and being happy, despite the circumstances, can never be a bad thing. At the end of the day, we are just human beings, and both grief and joy are simply parts of our life.
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