If your partner passes away first — Avoid these 5 mistakes to live peacefully and strongly after 60
5. The power of routine
When we lose someone, the days can become indistinguishable from one another. Without the shared routine, the days lose their shape. It is no longer morning, afternoon, and night, but rather the same old thing every day.
That is the power of routine.
Routine does not have to mean “moving on.” Routine simply has to exist.
Having breakfast at roughly the same time every day. Drinking coffee in the same seat every day. Taking a walk after lunch every day. Making one proper meal in the course of the day every day. Watching the same program on television every night.
Routine is not about accomplishment or self-control. It is not about being disciplined or productive but about stability in the face of instability.
A different kind of future
The future after the loss of a partner rarely looks like we’ve envisioned it. This is the first thing many of us have a hard time adjusting to.
When we decide to let go of the grief, we don’t pretend like the past didn’t matter, we just move on because we are human beings, and that’s what human beings do.
